I am blessed with gorgeous people in my life! This is another one of my niece, Jocelyn. The photos are taken by the talented young woman, Mikaela! I love these two and their sense of style and unique energy they bring to their school, and family. I love highlighting aspiring artistic people! Thanks Mikaela for your talent. And Jocelyn thanks for sharing your raw beauty. Her grunge style is refreshing.
Here is one more of those million articles you read on
“Girls you are beautiful as you are. “ As redundant as I sometimes feel this
topic is and it almost goes in one ear and out the other for some of us girls,
I have still written another post on it.
I still run into this so many times – girls not embracing their beauty –
that I can’t stay quiet for some reason. I feel like it’s my personal duty to
help us embrace our feminine beauty and power. You can read my post “Beauty
made practical – Part I here: http://claricer.blogspot.ca/2014/02/beauty-part-i-beauty-made-practical.html.
It’s easy for us to compare to other
people. Especially us women. It seems to be that’s how we measure our
standards. I find it so easy to do that. I notice all the beautiful women, and
I wonder what I could do to measure up or better yet, beat that. But I always
run into problems when I do that. Somehow those clothes never look the same way
on me. My hair never quite have that perfect curl. I’m never quite dark enough.
Here’s the deal: you can never really change the way you
look. If you have an athletic build and are 5 foot 4. You will never look like
the 6 foot girl with a narrow frame. Your shape is your shape. Your hair
texture will be your hair texture. Your face shape is your face shape. If
you’re a woman your beautiful no matter what your shape or height is. A woman
is created to be beautiful. You can’t not be beautiful. There is a reason why
you are made the way you are. You offer something with your unique beauty that
no one else in this world ever can.
So in my mind, instead of wasting your time trying to become
something else and stressing out in your mind of how you just don’t measure up,
you could take in your body as it is, and let it display it’s beauty in the
full powerful potential that it has. For some of us it just seems to take being
intentional and looking for that beauty. But I dare you to look until you find
it. Because it’s there.
So how do you practically embrace your beauty?
-As I mentioned before, you need to get in your mind that
you are beauty. You cannot let anyone or anything tell you that there is only a
certain size and color that is beautiful. If that’s the case God made only a
handful beautiful and whole lot of ugly people.
I sometimes think “How can I be a model for my blog?” I am
fully aware that I am not 6 feet and I’m not a size 0 by a long shot. I’m not a
certain shade of brown and not all of me is nicely toned. I don’t have an
hourglass figure. I could exactly tell you which parts of me “should” be
different. I am aware that there is a multitude of other girls that would be
much more eligible to be models for the standards nowadays. But I don’t mind. I
feel like I have come a long ways to where I know my beauty. I have looked, and
I have found it. I see it. I want to show that beauty is much more than the
certain size that walks down Victoria Secret fashion runways.
-Try seeing yourself the way your loved ones see you. They
usually love what they see. They know exactly how you smile when you get
excited. They know your cute little thing you do with your eyebrows when your
really focused on something. They know that you give really good hugs. They
have seen your body in action as you run and do the things you love to do.
Your beauty comes from who you are and gets displayed on the
outside. So much of your beauty comes from every little detail about who you
are at the core. I really think a huge percent of your beauty comes from the
inner self being translated on the
outside. And how you see and treat yourself is often how others will see you
too. And your letting them know how you want to be treated.
-As you observe yourself in the mirror, compliment yourself.
Force yourself to tell yourself out loud in great detail how wonderful your
each separate feature is. This can be really hard. But pick a feature that’s
easy first. The one you already like about yourself. Tell the girl in the
mirror what’s so beautiful about her eyes. Then go on to features you really
don’t like about yourself. This can take more time. But pretend the person in
the mirror is a celebrity and everyone wants to be like her. So that means
every part of you is desirable. Tell the girl in the mirror how the part of you
that you don’t like, is awesome.
And don’t lie. Find something that is actually awesome about that part
of your body.
-When people compliment you, receive it gracefully. Believe
them. And compliment others.
-As you find your own beauty, you start to be confident in
it. Dress for your body. Don’t dress the way a certain someone does. Dress for
you. If your bigger, don’t think you should dress the same as someone who is
really petite. Don’t think, since you used to wear size 2 pants that you must
forever fit into those. It’s ok to go bigger. PLEASE dress for what looks good
for your body. You don’t have to show us your overhang by wearing your tight
little shirts. I talked a bit about how you can love your hair a couple of
posts back. http://claricer.blogspot.ca/2014/09/i-dont-care-hair.html
In conclusion, I would love to see more girls and women rise
up in all their feminine beauty and confidence. It isn’t fair to you that all
you see advertised and adored are one type flawless bodies. I would love to see
the nerdy girls on magazine covers, the bookworms to be attractive, the outdoor
girl and the athletic girl to be highly esteemed. I would love to see girls
embrace their body size and lift up their faces and let themselves be loved.
Let the big girls, the small girls, the tall girls, the petite and the athletic,
the dark and the fair rise to the top and be leaders in their own way. These
are girls who don’t let themselves be objectified, but who show the world what
a true attractive woman is!
